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Me:
Comet, or Ju, 27, Brazilian, but I only post in English.
I mostly post about:
My hobbies are:
My fandoms are:
My posting schedule tends to be:
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Within our communities of practice, many of us have felt some degree of fatigue or burnout at the cynicism and ineffectiveness with which many organizations embraced their DEI efforts, especially those that tried to engage at a superficial level in 2020 and then only maintained a cosmetic embrace of the work without proper resourcing or structural support in the years since. In truth, I think a lot of the institutions whose leaders have followed that pattern were just waiting for this excuse to drop the pretense, and at least now we can all stop the charade.
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3. Movie, series, or documentary recommendations - I'm way behind the curve, so if you have seen something good that you recommend, let me know. I have full access to a library and I am not afraid to use it. Any genre - I also have access to Netflix, Disney, Hulu, HBO/Max, and many free services like YouTube.Reading about the manosphere makes me think of a few conversations I’ve had recently about the “male loneliness epidemic.” Which I do not doubt is real, or serious, and while I don’t think it’s unique per se — everyone right now is having a loneliness epidemic, regardless of gender — I also think there’s a utility in naming a specific subset of the broader phenomenon in order to address it. Like, an intersectional approach to tackling loneliness, or whatever.
That being said, there’s definitely something to the viral “men: (overturn Roe v. Wade) / also men: why don’t women want to have sex with us any more?” posts that go around. And, like. I hang out in a lot of spaces populated by awkward antisocial weirdos with niche (and often pretty dark) interests and mental illnesses at various levels of treatment. And hanging out in said spaces really, I think, illuminates the two Types of Guy and how they respond to loneliness (as well as questions around modern masculinity more broadly). Because the ones who lash out? Who externalise all their issues on women, on queer people, on minorities? They get all the press, mostly because they make it by force. But there is a whole other Type of Guy who, when confronted with that black pit, actually does put in the work to climb out of it, or at least not sink deeper. They engage with social and community groups, access what mental health care they can, develop hobbies and creative outputs, try and look after themselves and their spaces and their pets. Imperfectly, sure, but so what? There’s no silver bullet for being human.1
And there actually are influencers in this space . . . they just, again, a) tend not to get as much press for it, and, b) aren’t usually known for being “masculinity influencers” per se. Like, I’d argue John Walsh, a.k.a. Super Eyepatch Wolf, is effectively whatever the light-side-mirror-world opposite of a manosphere douchebag is. A popular YouTuber and streamer, with a focus on anime and gaming, who is conventionally attractive and enjoys combat sports and collecting anime waifu statues? And yet somehow manages to do all that without, y’know. A single sex-trafficking charge or leaked photo of himself making unfortunate gestures. Incredible.2 He’s far from the only one. But, I guess, because dudes like this aren’t interested in nailing “no girls” signs to their clubhouses — nor build a business model around grifting their vulnerable peers — they tend to get skipped over in these conversations.
Which is a shame. Because I think a lot of dudes out there really are struggling, and there are a bunch of other dudes who are offering up positive ways to escape that darkness. It’s just that all the toxic dipshits take up so much space and air that people can (understandably, since they also usually trying to keep their own heads above water) run pretty short on grace re. this whole issue.
When Trump rails against “socialists,” he’s not defending neutral markets; he’s defending a particular distribution of rights — one that prioritizes asset owners’ claims and uses public power to sustain them. When Mamdani advances democratic socialist policies, he’s not suggesting we abolish markets; he’s redrawing the boundary between private exclusion and public provision to include things like housing and transportation. Their methods both involve the state but toward starkly different visions of democratic accountability and economic rights.
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